Whispers of Wellness

You’re never too old to need comfort.

Whether it’s a plush squishmallow from When you were a child, A cozy hoodie that smells like a loved one or even just a small crystal you keep in your pocket during stressful days. Comfort objects are real valid and sometimes deeply necessary for a person’s emotional well being.

The world is always telling us that we have to grow up and be strong but sometimes that can be very difficult. Many people think that it’s silly or they might even feel shameful to have the need to rely on such things But from a psychological standpoint comfort objects “also known as transitional objects” are more than just sentimental They’re a tool for self regulation, grounding, and healing.

Let’s talk about what they really are, and why they might be more important than you think.

🌸 What Is a Comfort Object?
A comfort object is like a trusty sidekick, there to give you a sense of safety, soothe your worries, and keep you grounded, especially when life throws you a curveball, you’re feeling scared, or just totally overwhelmed. These things give you something real to hold onto that reminds you of feeling safe and good.

Different comfort objects click with people in unique ways, often depending on what they’ve been through and what feels good to their senses. Here are some common ones:

• A stuffed animal or blanket: These are the OG comfort objects, often bringing back childhood memories and those first feelings of security. Their softness and familiarity can make you feel warm and protected.
• A worn-in hoodie or scarf: The fabric, smell, and familiar feel of a favorite piece of clothing can make you feel secure and remind you of cozy times or people.
• A meaningful piece of jewelry: More than just looking good, jewelry can have a special meaning, connecting you to loved ones, important memories, or what you believe in. Its weight and presence can be a reassuring anchor.
• A smooth stone or crystal: Holding a smooth, cool stone can be super calming and grounding. Some folks also think crystals have special energy for emotional balance.
• A photo or small memento: Looking at pictures of cherished people, places, or events can bring up good feelings and make you feel connected and at peace.
• A scented item (like a specific lotion or essential oil): Your sense of smell is strongly tied to memories and emotions. A particular scent can instantly whisk you away to a calmer place or bring back comforting memories.

At the end of the day, comfort objects give us something solid and real to grab onto when our emotions are just too much to handle. They give us a focal point, a reminder of safety, and a simple but effective way to self-soothe and handle our feelings. In a world that often feels like a roller coaster, these personal little treasures are a valuable source of stability and reassurance.

💭 Where the Idea Comes From

The concept of comfort objects actually goes way back all the way to the 1950s. It started with a British psychoanalyst named DW Winnicott as he came up with the term transitional object to describe how young kids can form strong attachments to items like teddy bears or blankets especially when they’re learning to feel OK without a parent right there (APA Dictionary of Psychology, n.d.).

Let’s face it, our need for comfort doesn’t just disappear when we get older. Psychologists and mental health pros actually say that adults often go back to comfort items, especially when things get tough—think grief, burnout, or anxiety.

Some folks might call it immature, but it’s really not. It’s about recognizing what makes you feel safe and secure. So whether it’s a trusty teddy bear or that cozy handmade blanket from Grandma, just go for it. Nobody has the right to tell you what brings you comfort.

🧠 Why Comfort Objects Help Mental Health

Comfort objects Benefits

• Lower anxiety or panic
• Ground you when you’re feeling dissociated or overwhelmed
• Offer stability and familiarity
• Support you during grief, trauma recovery, or depressive episodes
• Help with inner child work and trauma-informed self-care

Comfort objects can be especially helpful during moments of overwhelm or emotional disconnection, offering something steady to hold onto when everything else feels too much.

While anyone can benefit from having a familiar, soothing item nearby, they’re often extra comforting for those navigating anxiety, sensory sensitivity, or past emotional wounds. It’s less about age or diagnosis—and more about giving yourself what you need to feel safe and supported.

🐻 My Comfort Object

My Puerto Rican bracelet is my absolute favorite comfort object. My mom gave it to me after her trip, and it totally reminds me of her, who’s the most important person in my life, and our shared heritage. Even though she works super hard and we’re not always physically close, I always feel like she’s right here with me thanks to this bracelet.

🌙 How to Find Your Own Comfort Object

If you don’t already have one, here are some ideas to explore:

1. Think about what soothed you as a kid. Was it texture? Smell? Sound?
2. Look around your space. You might already have something comforting—like a favorite hoodie or a book from someone special.
3. Choose something that engages your senses. Soft textures, calming scents, or a little bit of weight can go a long way.
4. Make it part of your routine. Keep it near your bed, hold it during hard moments, or take it with you when you travel.

💌 Final Thoughts: Comfort Is Valid

You’re not too grown, too healed, or too “together” to need softness in your life.

Your comfort object doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. If it helps you feel grounded, safe, or a little less alone—that’s more than enough.

Healing isn’t just about pushing forward. Sometimes, it’s about holding on to what makes you feel okay.

References

APA Dictionary of Psychology. (n.d.). https://dictionary.apa.org/transitional-object